September, what can I say you were a blur.
You began and ended with a bang. You provided heartwarming reunions, new experiences and memories, lots of football, and even more food. While I am overjoyed you happened I am also happy to see you go.
I am an extroverted introvert. This means I have a certain amount of energy I am able to use on social situations. When this energy is high I am making plans, going out, meeting new people, and loving it. Suddenly, I hit a wall and while I have enjoyed these events I need to go home, unplug, and recharge. I also prefer one on one or small group activities to large groups and deep conversation vs. small talk.
Coming to terms with this in recent years and meeting myself where I am in the moment has been quite the journey. Yet, I have come out the other side with a few tips and tricks to Extroverted Introvert survival!
- When you are feeling more introverted avoid social media. Social media creates FOMO (fear of missing out) and can make you feel like you should be out doing something rather than treating yourself and recharging your batteries.
- Treat Yourself. Don’t be afraid to unplug for a day or two. My ideal Sunday Funday may include Netflix and avoiding the outside world. After being “on” all week and weekend it is ok to retreat into your most comfortable space, make an awesome meal, watch your favorite series or read your favorite book, and totally feed your soul.
- Don’t Feel Bad Saying No. This was maybe my toughest step to get over. I was, and still kind of am, a people pleasing yes woman. I hate feeling like I am disappointing people even if that overbooks me or takes time away from my essential weekly reset. I realized that people get it. Especially if you don’t just say no but reschedule for a time that works better for you.
- If Needed Schedule Your Reset. When I first dabbled in self care I was really caught up in the third step and what helped me was scheduling my chill time. This made me value it as much as the other meetings and obligations during the week. Gradually, the need to schedule this time fades as you realize how amazing you feel and what you bring to the table after a day unplugged and totally for yourself.
This month with so many engagements both during the week and on the weekend and starting my own business my tips have been tested over and over again. I love being busy but it also makes me truly value my recharge time.
I hope these tips help you if you are an extroverted introvert or help you better understand a friend or loved one who is.